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7 Habits Of Happy, Emotionally Intelligent CEOs

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Simon Lovell

Featured on Forbes.com and Entrepreneur, Simon Lovell coaches and mentors top CEOS, entrepreneurs, and leaders on emotional intelligence, fulfillment, and happiness so they can reach the next level of impact. He is author of The Black Ball: Does Anybody Else Have A Secret & the host of Unshakeable Leaders Podcast.

His loving but NO BS approach and super strong accountability in his signature 6-week program The Super High-Performance Formula has been called 'profound' and 'life-changing'.

I want to deep-dive into emotional and energetic intelligence so that you can understand the importance of these areas when it comes to your success and performance in your business as a CEO.

When you feel your best and you’re on fire you can move forward with the things you want to do because you’re aligned with everything.

It’s been proven that people with high levels of emotional intelligence are happier. They grow their businesses; those entrepreneurs are the top performers. 

90% of high performers have high levels of emotional intelligence. The great news is that you can improve your emotional intelligence too.

Linking Emotional And Energetic Intelligence In Business

Emotional intelligence is an emotionally intangible asset in the entrepreneurial world – you need to look at yourself as an intangible asset. When something’s tangible, you have something physical, and when something’s intangible, you don’t necessarily have it in front of you, but there is a huge benefit to it.

It’s deeper than making money and material success, it’s about you feeling genuinely fulfilled. Life is not just about little shots of happiness. It’s about creating a deeper level of fulfillment and you can get there by becoming more emotionally intelligent. 

It’s about what you see, how you perceive, then what you do, and how you act; ultimately it’s about your attitude. Have you ever been around someone who has something amazing to offer, but you didn’t move forward with that person because their attitude sucked and it felt energetically off? 

It’s about how you personally and socially show up. 

Once change happens with your levels of intelligence within different areas you can understand how impactful that may be for you and your business. There are positives and negatives depending on how emotionally and intelligently aware you are. 

The Socially Skilled CEO

The negative result of having low emotional intelligence is self-sabotaging by creating stories – you say you don’t have time or you’re busy. It’s not true, but you use it as a sabotaging statement to avoid networking events that could be really beneficial to you. 

When you have a bad attitude you push people away. 

A positive version of when emotional intelligence is high is being engaged, having eye contact, feeling connected so people trust you, and want to see you again. They start to communicate with you more and that starts a relationship. 

Your social skills are very important. I’ve really developed mine over the years because I used to isolate myself a lot and it had a huge impact on my entrepreneurship journey. 

The Self-Aware CEO

Self-awareness is growth. The more self-aware you become of the things you don’t see is how you evolve -that’s how you grow. For someone who’s incredibly stubborn or closed-minded, that’s going to really impact growth and impact revenue opportunity. 

When you’re not aware of something, that’s one thing, but you’re aware and choose not to do something about it, that’s another thing. 

Maybe you want to build relationships, but you’re sabotaging. You don’t understand the reason for that is because of something that’s happened in your past – a trauma, or an event has an impact on how you now show up.

A positive example of using self-awareness with emotional intelligence is being with the trigger and noticing how you react in the moment to situations.

You catch yourself and are aware of how you feel. You can handle yourself positively versus being taken over by a trigger so you leave a situation, miss out on an opportunity, self-sabotage, or have an underlying feeling of not being good enough – that leads to you not marketing, leaving conversations and missing out on opportunities.

The Calm Calm Confident CEO

This is about self-trust. When you have low emotional intelligence in this area, you don’t hold your boundaries and you don’t trust yourself. You have a lack of integrity and that influences your levels of confidence.

When you have high levels of emotional and energetic intelligence you have courage. 

You can take big leaps and start to do things you say you’re going to. It’s also about dealing with levels of uncertainty and following through.

The Calm Decision Making CEO

Low emotional intelligence is about living in fear. Taking too much time to make a decision means you miss opportunities. High levels of success are about spotting opportunities, sensing when they feel right for you becasue they feel aligned with you and your mission, and then taking action. 

When you’re an entrepreneur and you leave things for too long opportunities pass you by.

When I created the lunchbox diet I took an idea I had and turned it into a book. All personal trainers ate from a lunchbox, but I was the person to market the idea. Other personal trainers got frustrated because I took the opportunity and ran with it while everyone else just ate from their lunchbox. I had a six-figure book deal with Harper Collins and everyone got annoyed at my success. That was their challenge for not taking the opportunity that I did. 

The Intuitive CEO 

You can’t access your intuition if you’re not accessing yourself.

Don’t get trapped by your ego telling you you’re dialed in because you’re intuitive – that is self-sabotage. Understand there are many different layers of intuition.

‘Woo’ is about the window of opportunity. It’s using energy as a means to make decisions and take action. That’s something I train people in and it’s incredibly powerful because you can use windows of time that already exist in your day to take action. 

You can cultivate windows, but there’s no point in having those windows if you’re not already taking the windows of opportunity in the energy that already exists to create amazing outcomes for yourself.

The Time Management Pro CEO

Lots of entrepreneurs struggle with managing themselves and their time.

If you can’t manage yourself, you’re not going to be able to manage your time and you’re not going to be able to manage your focus. 

Self-management and becoming emotionally and energetically intelligent is completely linked to time management. The low side of emotional and energetic intelligence in this area is procrastination, sabotage, and doing things yourself instead of delegating. 

If you don’t want to let go of things in your business that are not in your zone of genius you need to ask yourself why you have such a tight grip? When you become more emotionally intelligent and you’re not fearful, you let things go because you know other people can do some things better than you.  

The reason why you have a tight grip is most likely due to past experiences of hiring people or betrayal. 

The positive side of high end, emotional intelligence is using energy to become more efficient. You can look at something and see how you can bring the different things you’re doing together so you’re more efficient with your time.

If you line up a hundred people and give them a task, everyone’s going to do it with a different level of efficiency – some people will be working in fear, some will create stories in their head that slows them down and others will be completely focused on the outcome. Some will see it as a challenge and others will choose not to use tools they have.

There are a multitude of ways that people operate, but if you have an underlying fear, or there’s something else going on, challenges will impact procrastination. Linking personal and procrastination is key.

The Anger Managed CEO

Feeling anger can be really difficult for people to admit. There are reasons why entrepreneurs have heightened levels of anger. 

Unresolved trauma from the past causes deep issues and when anything is left unresolved, you boil over and start to snap at certain things, and it takes over you so you mentally beat yourself up. 

Then you start to add pressure to yourself and you start to add everyone else’s pressure because you’re growing your business and you have more responsibility. If you’ve got something that’s unresolved, you’re going to snap. You’re going to blow up.

Emotionally low intelligence in anger means you’ll snap, push people away, you won’t take responsibility and you’ll always need to be right – you’re incongruent with clients you take on because you lacked emotional and energetic intelligence and focused on hitting your sales targets. 

When you don’t know how to change you don’t think things can change.

When you’re positively driven by emotional intelligence you heal and you can deal with all of those things. But if you don’t think that you can do it, then you won’t change.

I’ve worked with lots of clients helping them to get into the energy of the past and deal with anger. A lot of reframing happens with a lot of energetic timeline work. 

Once you start to deal with things you can apologize and feel your emotions. You can express yourself. Nonexpression is linked to suppression. 

When you suppress, you push down and that creates a buildup. That’s when your face goes red. You go into a rage. You simmer just waiting for something to happen. No-one wants to feel like that. You don’t want to be that way but it’s subconscious.

You can manage it. You can use tools. The reality for most people is that you have to get into the root and pull it out. 

As you start to feel more and you start to use more of your senses, you start to notice the subtleties in energy. 

If you’re drinking alcohol a lot you’re not going to become sensitive to that, you’re not going to be in tune with yourself because you’ve got something disrupting your energy.

As you start to remove blocks and become clear, you start to become more connected yourself, and you can sense more. You can feel more. 

When something comes up, you’re on a sales call, you’re doing something in your marketing, or you’re in a conversation at a networking event, you’re going to start to access your intuition.

You’re going to start to sense. You’re going to start to feel, and your body’s going to start to tell you the next move you need to make. 

You get out of your head and you create coherence between your mind and heart. In my, experience the best way to get that flowing, is dealing with things you don’t want to address. 

I’m excited for your new journey of emotional and energetic intelligence because I truly believe this is the next shift that we need in this world to become a ‘we’ world, not an ‘I’ world – to collectively come together to do amazing things and create a massive impact. 

It starts with me and you, and how we understand ourselves. It starts by admitting we need to become more connected with ourselves and more self-aware, to become the catalyst of change and impact other people. 

Once we fully commit to being the best version of ourselves then, and only then, can we create true change.

If you’re a CEO / entrepreneur who wants to develop strong emotional intelligence you can apply for my 6 week 1-1 intensive here.

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